Some people say the key to finding a partner is to stop searching – to keep your life as it is and don’t change anything. That’s not exactly how it is. Of course, none of the relationships should be forced. However, you should remain who you truly are to find someone who will truly love you.
Is there any specific way to find love? No. Everyone is searching for “the one” for them but nobody is the same, right? Yet, certain qualities classify as good signs for starting a relationship. An important thing to notice is that there’s always room for improvement. This article is a simple guide for women (or more likely a warning if something goes exactly the opposite) of what should happen in a relationship and what is a sign that men are serious about the future.
Before you start a relationship, or even when you start having some deeper feelings, you need to think first if that person treats you in the right way. Take a moment and try to find any red flags that could make you doubt if it’s the right choice for you and ask yourself if you see your future with him. Having your brain, not just your heart, convinced is the true pillar.
What are the best qualities?
First things first respect. It appears in various ways, such as respecting your opinion during a conversation, not being selfish, trying to get your point of view, and listening to what you say. Also, one significant thing to notice: don’t be naive – if he truly cares about you, he won’t choose moments when he doesn’t.
The second equally important thing is attention. Women indeed demand it quite often but I mean something much more valuable. Priorities. You’ll both slowly but constantly start changing them once you get into the relationship. That’s how it should be, once you’re deeply in love, you both become inseparable.
Understanding. Quality of every successful relationship. If you both don’t get along and have arguments more often than normal conversations that make you happy, then it’s a red sign. You need to have the will to learn how to communicate with each other and to work on it (I recommend reading the other article about communication for more details).
Honesty seems scary at first – to have the courage to open up to someone who once was a stranger but that’s needed for a good relationship to work. If that person one day turns out to be the closest person to you, you need to give something of yourself as well. Any kind of dishonesty ends up badly, so let’s keep things simple.
A best friend who becomes your partner. Though it doesn’t always have to be that way, it’s a valuable thing to first start as friends. All of the qualities mentioned before guide how to find your best friend too. The bond between you and your other half will be much stronger than that though.
Happiness. Of course, you should enjoy your time spent together, have fun and maybe even have some hobbies or passions you can share. Though people tend to say that the opposite attracts each other, I don’t fully agree with that. You’ll be looking for a safe place, a person who will appreciate you as you are and will accept you. If you’re not happy with his company, then don’t put yourself in a relationship that will make you feel worse.
The strength of your connection will be realized once you’ll go through something difficult together. Indeed, the hardest times are also the ones that show you how much you’re worth in the eyes of the other person.
Trust yourself. If you have doubts about starting a relationship or you don’t know if it’s love just yet, then it’s better to wait a while. There shouldn’t be a rush when it comes to it, so just be honest with yourself.
All of the above is a reminder of what are the green flags for a relationship to start even though every single one is different. It’s truly incredible when you meet the right person in your life and you both start growing together as a couple. Love is your strength, not your weakness and it makes you a better person.