Communication is one of the most important skills when it comes to any kind of a social relationship. It requires a lot of effort and we should pay a lot of attention to make our relationship stronger. Let’s focus more on the ones we care about the most, don’t you agree?
Even though I’m not an expert in this field, I’m using a bit of my own experience to show you all that I’ve learned or noticed. The lessons I’m about to walk you through are at least one of the most important ones.
One of the first things to notice is that communication needs to be constantly improving. That leads us to a major conclusion: you’ll never be a master of it. You cannot learn it in one day and then consider that you know all the insights of it because it simply isn’t true. Depending on the person that you’re talking with, the type of communication and ways of having a conversation differ. You’ll always meet new people and gain new friends or coworkers. In this article, we’ll focus just on you and the love of your life.
What’s the key to an improvement in your interaction?
Realize that it takes both of you to improve it. It’ll never work as well as it could if you don’t put in the same amount of effort. It is never just about you or your partner. The moment when you got into a relationship, you became a team. But what if you get into a fight? Fighting isn’t about proving that you’re right and the other person is wrong (unless it’s a fight with pure facts as arguments). Fighting is about understanding each other’s points of view. When it happens and some of your emotions play a big role in the way of your understanding, you need to be treated with respect and at the same time show it to the other person. Listen to what they have to say and speak in a way there aren’t any misunderstandings.
You cannot just think about yourself. If you truly love the other person, you’ll at least try your best to get their point and show some empathy. If you treat a fight as a win-or-lose kind of situation, then you’ll never solve the problem together.
Communication over emotions. Even when you’re angry, sad, or disappointed, you shouldn’t push them away from you. The only exception to this rule is if you let them know that you need some time to clear your head or control your emotions. Do not leave them without a response.
They aren’t you, so be as clear as you can. How will they know exactly the way you think if you don’t explain it to them? You have a person right in front of you who is willing to understand you, and who will listen to all you want to say when others won’t. If that’s not enough then ask yourself a question: Do I want to be understood? All it takes is a bit of patience and finding the way out.
In today’s times, it is important to give the other person attention. Get rid of distractions such as your phone and keep your focus on the conversation. It’s pretty simple but shows a lot of respect for others. Read their lips especially if it’s an important theme.
Don’t postpone the agreement to another day. It’s much better and healthier for a relationship to solve whatever needs it and if you can’t find a full solution right away, at least talk it through. See precisely what the problem is and go to sleep with the certainty that what’s bothering you matters to your partner too.
That person is your number one priority, is that right? Don’t let yourself ignore them. The reason for that is uncomplicated – one day it’ll become a habit of yours (probably sooner than expected). No matter what, if something comes up, you’re able to stop all the other things that you’re doing and be there for your love. The support you give them, care, attention, love, and understanding – all that have the most remarkable value. Don’t let yourself throw these qualities in the trash.
In the beginning, everyone is scared of being judged by someone they care about. But keep in mind that a person you’re about to talk with loves you incredibly much helps with overcoming the fear. They know you better than anyone else and they accept you as you are. Of course, they’ll push you to improve yourself and be thankful for that (personally speaking, it’s a life-changer).
There’s a lot of improvement needed for a relationship in order to keep working. I’m very thankful to the love of my life for what he’s taught me so far and that we manage to overcome every single obstacle and never give up on each other. All that is written here wouldn’t be possible without him.
Keep in mind: a relationship requires high-quality communication and communication demands effort. It’s a constant improvement and learning from mistakes but I assure you, it’s worth it.