In this article, I’ll be getting a little bit more into my own experience. What was my opinion about any kind of relationship before I got into a serious one? How has my mindset changed since then? What I found out by myself about long-term relationships that no one has ever mentioned? You’re about to find out.
Let’s begin with my knowledge of relationships. I wasn’t the type of a girl who would have tons of boyfriends, but the one who enjoyed the freedom and discovered and developed her imagination. The only problem was none of these fascinating ideas was real. Though I tried twice to be in a “relationship”, nothing was seriously taken by any of the sides. Back then I wasn’t even close to knowing what love is. It felt horrible to realize that I’ll hurt someone no matter what I do (if I stay, I’ll keep lying to myself and if I end it, I’ll most likely hurt the other person). I don’t think I did. Why? Because neither was I treated seriously back then. Either way, I felt much better by myself than in a relationship like this.
Notice: Sooner or later you’ll gain your own experience. Be honest with yourself and there will be that person for you also, don’t rush.
After these two times, I made a promise to myself – next time I’m getting into a relationship I need to be certain I want it. I want to love the other person and make sure (with both, heart and brain) that he’s the right one for me. I started treating myself more seriously and I cannot say how thankful I am for that.
I also didn’t know much about online friendships before 2020 but mostly because of my willingness to improve my English, I decided to give it a try. A lot of more or less important people (mostly the latter) had passed by. And the only one who stayed till now is my love. I started simply by having some conversations with him and here we are. Unexpectedly, I found a person that means everything to me.
Since he came into my life, he has turned it 180 degrees. He lifted me up and suddenly, I became the happiest person that I could ever be. My life has a new purpose: make him happy, show him how deep your feelings are, and prioritize him above all else. This is it. This is what gives me strength. This is what I want. Him.
Did I have doubts? Hell no. Even though we’ve never seen each other before, I’ve never felt closer to anyone and more understood than by him. Getting into that relationship and being by his side since then are the things I never regretted. If you think differently about yours, then that’s simply not it. Do yourself a favor and treat yourself seriously even if no one else does. Who’s gonna love you if you don’t love yourself? Learn how to respect yourself and don’t let others disrespect you. But remember, people make mistakes and you need to teach yourself how to know if it’s the right thing to forgive or to let go.
The thing that I didn’t know about long-term relationships is that it’s not gonna be the same in the beginning and later on. Things change, people improve, and they get used to the fact of having you there. Is that good? The answer depends on a lot of factors.
At the beginning of any relationship, both of you are incredibly excited about it. You are inseparable and you have the desire to get to know each other more and more. All the time that you have is priceless. Over time you get used to it. And here’s an alert for everyone. Don’t let yourself forget how much it all means to you. Don’t even think of putting your job above what you two have. Keep reminding yourself that you’re the luckiest person in the whole world and what connected you with your significant other melts your heart and seeing him smile is the greatest award you can get. All that matters!
People get busy over time. Their lifestyle changes, they start having a family and their career is what provides for it. Don’t let yourself get too used to it because if you do, your passionate relationship will be long gone before you notice that.
I’m not only in a long-term relationship but also a long-distance one. It’s harder than anyone ever described. It helps to think that we have more time for our hobbies and improving ourselves the best we can (sort of a preparation for the future). Every time it hurts, it shows his importance in my life. But there isn’t a way to describe the peaceful feeling we both feel when we’re together.
I’ve been lucky to experience such a deep connection. After being 8 months in a relationship I regret nothing. Not even the nights when I was breaking my record in not sleeping. What we have is worth fighting for. I hope you can relate to that as well.